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Pareto’s Law, The 80/20 Rule (and My Progress in New Year’s Goals)

By Anita Mathias

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AFTER My book shelf, Jan 7, after housework.

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BEFORE My bookshelf, Jan 1.

I am reading Tim Ferriss’s The 4-Hour Work Week with absolute fascination, partly because Roy and I have independently stumbled upon and are practicing many of Ferriss’s ideas and principles. (I plan to review the book later.)

Ferris discusses Pareto’s Law or the 80/20 principle.

Pareto, an Italian economist (1848 to 1923), realized that, in virtually every area of life: business, investing, creative work, social life, gardening, 80 % of benefits will come from 20 % of one’s time and efforts.

And conversely, 80% of one’s unhappiness or unproductive activity or self-thwarting will come from 20% of one’s actions.

Some applications of 80/20 or “The Vital Few and The Trivial Many.”

1. In a business, 80% of your income will come from 20% of your products and employees. (Having run a business since 2006, I can testify this is true!!). And 80% of your hassle and wasted time will come from 20% of your customers and employees. The solution seems obvious, doesn’t it?

2. For a writer, 80% of your happiness and output will come from 20% of your time at your desk. (For 80 % of your laptop time, you may well be fooling around on Twitter, Facebook, email, Amazon, stats and research). True again!

3. 80% of the happiness in your life will come from 20 % of your relationships. AND, conversely, 20% of negative, mean, put-downy, insistent people will be causing 80% of the stress in your life.

(True again. I had a “friend” who went to church with me in America, 9 years ago. He spammed my facebook with negative obnoxious theological, political and economic comments on every post. Unfriending didn’t work; I succumbed to a friend requent. I blocked him. And began to enjoy Facebook again. It’s no fun posting when you know a bore is waiting to shoot you down. My stress, annoyance and time wasted on FB dropped exponentially with one blocking. (If blocking or unfriending is extreme, try putting “frenemies” on restricted setting, and making all your posts “Friends, except restricted.”)

4. When it comes to weight loss, 80% will come from 20% of changes. Let’s say, “Don’t eat when you are not hungry.” “Cut sugar and white flour.” “Eat huge salads and more fruit.” Don’t shoot for perfection, and make your diet unsustainable.

5 80 % of your happiness at home will come from 20% of your domestic efforts—i.e. keeping the rooms you spend most of your time in uncluttered, tidy and attractive.

Other applications of the Vital Few and the Trivial Many

1) Ask what 20% of sources are causing 80% of your problems and unhappiness.

I now try not to hang out with people who habitually put me down, even in jest, or are sarcastic, or are frequently negative (esp. about me).

For instance, I agreed to meet up with someone and then realized she would want to focus on the negative in my life (even if she just imagined it); the negative in her life (whining rather than looking for solutions) and the negative things about everyone she knew. I dread meeting up with her, then cancelled—and immediately felt happy, and my week looked rosy again.

2) Ask what 20% of sources cause 80% of my happiness and desired outcomes. Focus on increasing them.

For me, it’s reading, writing, watching films, and hanging out with family and positive friends.

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Tim Ferriss suggests “firing” the 80% of customers and employees who only bring in 20% of your income actually exponentially increases your income because it frees you to work with the 20% of profitable employees and customers.

For a writer, limiting Facebook, Twitter and email increases the time spent on one’s actual writing. Limiting scattershot “promoting” increases time producing.

Ask yourself these questions. You will declutter your life.

Last Week’s Goals and This Week’s Tweaks.

Writing

What worked: I have written four good long posts on the Bible.

1 The Insistent Goodness of the Lord in the Land of the Living

2 God Comes to Those who Dare to be Different: Do not be Afraid.

3 When the Word of God Can Transform, and Even Save Your Life.

4 “I Don’t” Lists Make Possible “I Do” Lists. You Must Revise Your Life.

And 5 2013 Goals, Hopes and Dreams

What I have learned: If I blog well every day, I will not have much time and energy for other writing. So I am going to experiment with writing fresh posts every second day. On the “day-off,” I might use edited archive posts (if I have time to edit after doing “real” writing), do book reviews, or just rest!

Michael Hyatt relates Tim Ferriss’s brilliant idea of  the  minimum effective dose to blogging. If you post, say, three times a week, you may well get the same amount of visitors and traffic (each post will get more visits; the posts will be longer and better and more-read because you will have more thinking and resting time, and so will be ranked higher by Google).

So I will take one day to do “real” writing first, and then blog if there’s energy, and one day to blog, and then write (if there’s energy). See if the blog keeps growing; if not, use edited archive posts on the off days.

Other writing—Zilch. This, God willing, will improve with blogging every second day.

2 Health and Weight

Lost 1.6 pounds.

Start weight Jan 1—233 lb,

Jan 7th—231.6 lb.

Jan 13 Goal between 230.6 and 231.1. So help me, God.

Walked and ran every day, getting a couple of personal bests.

Went to the gym, found it broke up the flow of my work, and the time spent driving, getting there early etc was wasted, so decided to do yoga and weights at home.

Diet—Lost weight, so I guess I hit the minimum effective dose to lose weight. Experimenting with healthy-ish meal of my favourite foods, and one “healthy” meal of salad with shrimp or chicken, and feta. Strict veganism did not work for me, alas.

I met an alcoholic recently, who had been hospitalized, and given no alcohol in hospital. When he left, he realized he could do without it. His eyes shining he said, “It’s so freeing. Realizing I can say no. I don’t have to drink at lunch, or during the day, or waste my evening at the pub. It feels so great, so free.”

I feel like that when I decided, “If I am not hungry, I don’t eat.” And, “I rarely eat sugar or chocolate or stuff which does not bless my body.”

As I break the habit of comfort eating, and don’t eat when I am tired, or bored or stressed, but pray for an infilling of the Holy Spirit instead, it is so freeing!

3 Waking Early_

Except for Sunday woke early, well before 8, every day. This week’s goal—7.05 a.m.

4 Housework

Enjoyed tidying my bedroom on the cleaner day. Decided to get him weekly for the motivation his coming provides.  Working this book shelf this week, check back on Jan 13th.

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Top half of book shelf

3 dvds bottom half

BEFORE Bottom half of book shelf Check back to see progress on Jan 13th

 

5 No gardening done.

6 Reading

Not read much of books,  just blogs, though listened to books on audio as I walk. Plan to rectify this by a simple tweak of reading in the mornings.

I like to read before I write to settle my mind, and sort of build up momentum, like a plane on a runway. Out of laziness, I’ve been reading blogs, because they are right here on my laptop, but am going to get into the habit of keeping a book by me at all times.

6 My daughter Zoe was accepted to read Theology at Jesus College, Cambridge.

The resultant exultation online and off-line sort of skewed my plans for social media usage.

Time/week
Dec. avg. Goal: Jan 1 Achv’d Goal: Jan 7 Achv’d Goal – year end
Writing 7h 10 min 8h  15 hours  16 hours 35h
Social media 11h 17 min 8h  12 hours15 mins  10 hours 3h 30min
News, Blogs, Magazines 5h 21 min  5 hours  5 hours  4 hours  3 hours
Email 3h 3min  2 hours  3 hours23 mins  2 hours 2h

 

 

 


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  1. Debra Seiling says

    January 9, 2013 at 2:50 am

    Dear Anita, I especially liked, “For a writer, 80% of your happiness and output will come from 20% of your time at your desk. (For 80 % of your laptop time, you may well be fooling around on Twitter, Facebook, email, Amazon, stats and research). True again!” Food for thought to other writers and bloggers, as well. Thanks! Debra Seiling http://bible-passages.blogspot.com  and  http://christian-overeaters.blogspot.com 

    • Anita Mathias says

      January 9, 2013 at 8:37 am

      Yeah, it’s true, isn’t it? Thanks for visiting Debbie!

  2. Angela Pool Funai says

    January 8, 2013 at 8:49 pm

    Great tips, Anita! I especially related to the housekeeping part. With five boys at home, it quickly becomes overwhelming. Instead of trying the impossible (ie, clean everything!), I will try to focus on key rooms, and even spaces within rooms.

    • Anita Mathias says

      January 9, 2013 at 8:40 am

      Have you heard of Flylady.net who has a nice system of getting your house back into order.
      I love ” 401 ways to train your children to work at home” a chore system to get those boys to help out!

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Hi Friends, I have taped a meditation; do listen a Hi Friends, I have taped a meditation; do listen at this link: https://anitamathias.com/2025/04/08/the-kingdom-of-god-is-here-already-yet-not-yet-here-2/
It’s on the Kingdom of God, of which Christ so often spoke, which is here already—a mysterious, shimmering internal palace in which, in lightning flashes, we experience peace and joy, and yet, of course, not yet fully here. We sense the rainbowed presence of Christ in the song which pulses through creation. Christ strolls into our rooms with his wisdom and guidance, and things change. Our prayers are answered; we are healed; our hearts are strangely warmed. Sometimes.
And yet, we also experience evil within & all around us. Our own sin which can shatter our peace and the trajectory of our lives. And the sins of the world—its greed, dishonesty and environmental destruction.
But in this broken world, we still experience the glory of creation; “coincidences” which accelerate once we start praying, and shalom which envelops us like sudden sunshine. The portals into this Kingdom include repentance, gratitude, meditative breathing, and absolute surrender.
The Kingdom of God is here already. We can experience its beauty, peace and joy today through the presence of the Holy Spirit. But yet, since, in the Apostle Paul’s words, we do not struggle only “against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the unseen powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil,” its fullness still lingers…
Our daughter Zoe was ordained into the Church of E Our daughter Zoe was ordained into the Church of England in June. I have been on a social media break… but … better late than never. Enjoy!
First picture has my sister, Shalini, who kindly flew in from the US. Our lovely cousins Anthony and Sarah flank Zoe in the next picture.
The Bishop of London, Sarah Mullaly, ordained Zoe. You can see her praying that Zoe will be filled with the Holy Spirit!!
And here’s a meditation I’ve recorded, which you might enjoy. The link is also in my profile
https://anitamathias.com/2024/11/07/all-those-who-exalt-themselves-will-be-humbled-the-humble-will-be-exalted/
I have taped a meditation on Jesus statement in Ma I have taped a meditation on Jesus statement in Matthew 23, “For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Do listen here. https://anitamathias.com/2024/11/07/all-those-who-exalt-themselves-will-be-humbled-the-humble-will-be-exalted/
Link also in bio.
And so, Jesus states a law of life. Those who broadcast their amazingness will be humbled, since God dislikes—scorns that, as much as people do.  For to trumpet our success, wealth, brilliance, giftedness or popularity is to get distracted from our life’s purpose into worthless activity. Those who love power, who are sure they know best, and who must be the best, will eventually be humbled by God and life. For their focus has shifted from loving God, doing good work, and being a blessing to their family, friends, and the world towards impressing others, being enviable, perhaps famous. These things are houses built on sand, which will crumble when hammered by the waves of old age, infirmity or adversity. 
God resists the proud, Scripture tells us—those who crave the admiration and power which is His alone. So how do we resist pride? We slow down, so that we realise (and repent) when sheer pride sparks our allergies to people, our enmities, our determination to have our own way, or our grandiose ego-driven goals, and ambitions. Once we stop chasing limelight, a great quietness steals over our lives. We no longer need the drug of continual achievement, or to share images of glittering travel, parties, prizes or friends. We just enjoy them quietly. My life is for itself & not for a spectacle, Emerson wrote. And, as Jesus advises, we quit sharp-elbowing ourselves to sit with the shiniest people, but are content to hang out with ordinary people; and then, as Jesus said, we will inevitably, eventually, be summoned higher to the sparkling conversation we craved. 
One day, every knee will bow before the gentle lamb who was slain, now seated on the throne. We will all be silent before him. Let us live gently then, our eyes on Christ, continually asking for his power, his Spirit, and his direction, moving, dancing, in the direction that we sense him move.
Link to new podcast in Bio https://anitamathias.co Link to new podcast in Bio https://anitamathias.com/2024/02/20/how-jesus-dealt-with-hostility-and-enemies/
3 days before his death, Jesus rampages through the commercialised temple, overturning the tables of moneychangers. Who gave you the authority to do these things? his outraged adversaries ask. And Jesus shows us how to answer hostile questions. Slow down. Breathe. Quick arrow prayers!
Your enemies have no power over your life that your Father has not permitted them. Ask your Father for wisdom, remembering: Questions do not need to be answered. Are these questioners worthy of the treasures of your heart? Or would that be feeding pearls to hungry pigs, who might instead devour you?
Questions can contain pitfalls, traps, nooses. Jesus directly answered just three of the 183 questions he was asked, refusing to answer some; answering others with a good question.
But how do we get the inner calm and wisdom to recognise
and sidestep entrapping questions? Long before the day of
testing, practice slow, easy breathing, and tune in to the frequency of the Father. There’s no record of Jesus running, rushing, getting stressed, or lacking peace. He never spoke on his own, he told us, without checking in with the Father. So, no foolish, ill-judged statements. Breathing in the wisdom of the Father beside and within him, he, unintimidated, traps the trappers.
Wisdom begins with training ourselves to slow down and ask
the Father for guidance. Then our calm minds, made perceptive, will help us recognise danger and trick questions, even those coated in flattery, and sidestep them or refuse to answer.
We practice tuning in to heavenly wisdom by practising–asking God questions, and then listening for his answers about the best way to do simple things…organise a home or write. Then, we build upwards, asking for wisdom in more complex things.
Listening for the voice of God before we speak, and asking for a filling of the Spirit, which Jesus calls streams of living water within us, will give us wisdom to know what to say, which, frequently, is nothing at all. It will quieten us with the silence of God, which sings through the world, through sun and stars, sky and flowers.
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And since, I’m on social media, if you are the meditating type, here’s a scriptural meditation on not being afraid, while being prudent. https://anitamathias.com/2024/01/03/do-not-be-afraid-but-do-be-prudent/
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Do Not Be Afraid, but Do Be Prudent
“Do not be afraid,” a dream-angel tells Joseph, to marry Mary, who’s pregnant, though a virgin, for in our magical, God-invaded world, the Spirit has placed God in her. Call the baby Jesus, or The Lord saves, for he will drag people free from the chokehold of their sins.
And Joseph is not afraid. And the angel was right, for a star rose, signalling a new King of the Jews. Astrologers followed it, threatening King Herod, whose chief priests recounted Micah’s 600-year-old prophecy: the Messiah would be born in Bethlehem, as Jesus had just been, while his parents from Nazareth registered for Augustus Caesar’s census of the entire Roman world. 
The Magi worshipped the baby, offering gold. And shepherds came, told by an angel of joy: that the Messiah, a saviour from all that oppresses, had just been born.
Then, suddenly, the dream-angel warned: Flee with the child to Egypt. For Herod plans to kill this baby, forever-King.
Do not be afraid, but still flee? Become a refugee? But lightning-bolt coincidences verified the angel’s first words: The magi with gold for the flight. Shepherds
telling of angels singing of coming inner peace. Joseph flees.
What’s the difference between fear and prudence? Fear is being frozen or panicked by imaginary what-ifs. It tenses our bodies; strains health, sleep and relationships; makes us stingy with ourselves & others; leads to overwork, & time wasted doing pointless things for fear of people’s opinions.
Prudence is wisdom-using our experience & spiritual discernment as we battle the demonic forces of this dark world, in Paul’s phrase.It’s fighting with divinely powerful weapons: truth, righteousness, faith, Scripture & prayer, while surrendering our thoughts to Christ. 
So let’s act prudently, wisely & bravely, silencing fear, while remaining alert to God’s guidance, delivered through inner peace or intuitions of danger and wrongness, our spiritual senses tuned to the Spirit’s “No,” his “Slow,” his “Go,” as cautious as a serpent, protected, while being as gentle as a lamb among wolves.
Link to post with podcast link in Bio or https://a Link to post with podcast link in Bio or https://anitamathias.com/2023/09/22/dont-walk-away-from-jesus-but-if-you-do-he-still-looks-at-you-and-loves-you/
Jesus came from a Kingdom of voluntary gentleness, in which
Christ, the Lion of Judah, stands at the centre of the throne in the guise of a lamb, looking as if it had been slain. No wonder his disciples struggled with his counter-cultural values. Oh, and we too!
The mother of the Apostles James and John, asks Jesus for a favour—that once He became King, her sons got the most important, prestigious seats at court, on his right and left. And the other ten, who would have liked the fame, glory, power,limelight and honour themselves are indignant and threatened.
Oh-oh, Jesus says. Who gets five talents, who gets one,
who gets great wealth and success, who doesn’t–that the
Father controls. Don’t waste your one precious and fleeting
life seeking to lord it over others or boss them around.
But, in his wry kindness, he offers the ambitious twelve
and us something better than the second or third place.
He tells us how to actually be the most important person to
others at work, in our friend group, social circle, or church:Use your talents, gifts, and energy to bless others.
And we instinctively know Jesus is right. The greatest people in our lives are the kind people who invested in us, guided us and whose wise, radiant words are engraved on our hearts.
Wanting to sit with the cleverest, most successful, most famous people is the path of restlessness and discontent. The competition is vast. But seek to see people, to listen intently, to be kind, to empathise, and doors fling wide open for you, you rare thing!
The greatest person is the one who serves, Jesus says. Serves by using the one, two, or five talents God has given us to bless others, by finding a place where our deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet. By writing which is a blessing, hospitality, walking with a sad friend, tidying a house.
And that is the only greatness worth having. That you yourself,your life and your work are a blessing to others. That the love and wisdom God pours into you lives in people’s hearts and minds, a blessing
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Sharing this podcast I recorded last week. LINK IN BIO
So Jesus makes a beautiful offer to the earnest, moral young man who came to him, seeking a spiritual life. Remarkably, the young man claims that he has kept all the commandments from his youth, including the command to love one’s neighbour as oneself, a statement Jesus does not challenge.
The challenge Jesus does offers him, however, the man cannot accept—to sell his vast possessions, give the money to the poor, and follow Jesus encumbered.
He leaves, grieving, and Jesus looks at him, loves him, and famously observes that it’s easier for a camel to squeeze through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to live in the world of wonders which is living under Christ’s kingship, guidance and protection. 
He reassures his dismayed disciples, however, that with God even the treasure-burdened can squeeze into God’s kingdom, “for with God, all things are possible.”
Following him would quite literally mean walking into a world of daily wonders, and immensely rich conversation, walking through Israel, Lebanon, Syria, and Jordan, quite impossible to do with suitcases and backpacks laden with treasure. 
For what would we reject God’s specific, internally heard whisper or directive, a micro-call? That is the idol which currently grips and possesses us. 
Not all of us have great riches, nor is money everyone’s greatest temptation—it can be success, fame, universal esteem, you name it…
But, since with God all things are possible, even those who waver in their pursuit of God can still experience him in fits and snatches, find our spirits singing on a walk or during worship in church, or find our hearts strangely warmed by Scripture, and, sometimes, even “see” Christ stand before us. 
For Christ looks at us, Christ loves us, and says, “With God, all things are possible,” even we, the flawed, entering his beautiful Kingdom.
https://anitamathias.com/2023/09/07/how-to-find-th https://anitamathias.com/2023/09/07/how-to-find-the-freedom-of-forgiveness/
How to Find the Freedom of Forgiveness
Letting go on anger and forgiving is both an emotional transaction & a decision of the will. We discover we cannot command our emotions to forgive and relinquish anger. So how do we find the space and clarity of forgiveness in our mind, spirit & emotions?
When tormenting memories surface, our cortisol, adrenaline, blood pressure, and heart rate all rise. It’s good to take a literally quick walk with Jesus, to calm this neurological and physiological storm. And then honestly name these emotions… for feelings buried alive never die.
Then, in a process called “the healing of memories,” mentally visualise the painful scene, seeing Christ himself there, his eyes brimming with compassion. Ask Christ to heal the sting, to draw the poison from these memories of experiences. We are caterpillars in a ring of fire, as Martin Luther wrote--unable to rescue ourselves. We need help from above.
Accept what happened. What happened, happened. Then, as the Apostle Paul advises, give thanks in everything, though not for everything. Give thanks because God can bring good out of the swindle and the injustice. Ask him to bring magic and beauty from the ashes.
If, like the persistent widow Jesus spoke of, you want to pray for justice--that the swindler and the abusers’ characters are revealed, so many are protected, then do so--but first, purify your own life.
And now, just forgive. Say aloud, I forgive you for … You are setting a captive free. Yourself. Come alive. Be free. 
And when memories of deep injuries arise, say: “No. No. Not going there.” Stop repeating the devastating story to yourself or anyone else. Don’t waste your time & emotional energy, nor let yourself be overwhelmed by anger at someone else’s evil actions. Don’t let the past poison today. Refuse to allow reinjury. Deliberately think instead of things noble, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.
So keep trying, in obedience, to forgive, to let go of your anger until you suddenly realise that you have forgiven, and can remember past events without agitation. God be with us!
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