In those Should-I/Should-I-Not dilemmas of life, a question I would often ask myself was, “Well, what will I gain–or not gain from this?”
It’s not a stupid, or even a selfish question, necessarily. We are responsible for the stewardship of our lives.
I often add an additional question now. If I have a choice between two activities, I ask, which will be a greater blessing to myself and others?
For instance, I blogged yesterday about feeling over-extended and burnt out. I have two choices for this evening. I have been invited to a large literary party at which a group of writers I have known and enjoyed for six years will be at. I know I will have a good time, laugh, learn, come back buzzy.
Or I could stay home, go to the gym, play a family game, watch a documentary on DVD, write, read, blog. Might this be a greater blessing to my family, my body (writers’ gatherings are winey!!) and myself?
Balancing extroversion and introversion, one’s need for healing silences and other people’s companionship: one of life’s great arts!!