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Ambivalence on Remembrance Day: The old lie, Dulce est Decorum Est Pro Patria Mori

By Anita Mathias

If you could hear, at every jolt, the blood
Come gargling from the froth-corrupted lungs,
Obscene as cancer, bitter as the cud
Of vile, incurable sores on innocent tongues,
My friend, you would not tell with such high zest
To children ardent for some desperate glory,
The old Lie; Dulce et Decorum est
Pro patria mori.
Wilfred Owen.

Dulce et Decorum est pro patria mori. “How sweet and fitting it is to die for one’s country!” (the “old lie” first written by Horace).

We had a two minute silence at Bible Study today as we played Radio Four and remembered 11 o’clock, on the 11th of November, 1918.
I feel very uncomfortable and ambivalent on Remembrance Day, or Veterans Day, as it’s known in the US.
The conscription after 1916 during the First World War was a tragedy, and those who lost their lives unnecessarily because of inept politicians and their inept political manoeuvring should be mourned.
The Allied involvement in the Second World War was certainly among the few unambiguously good military actions, and one can be whole-heartedly grateful to those who fought and lost their lives in the attempt to stop Hitler and Hirohito, sooner rather than later.
My father lived in England from 1944 to 1952, and was an air-raid warden in London in 1944-45. We grew up enthralled by his memories, and for years, I read everything I came across on the Second World War.
It struck me, though, that evil is self-limiting. That the Third Reich would have collapsed anyway. It was expanding too fast; was too hated in the countries it conquered; was expending too many resources in their mad quest for the genocidal “Final Solution.” But still, they did need to be stopped as soon as possible.
However, I cannot say that Britain’s involvement in the “small wars” since 1945, –the Gulf War, Iraq, and Afghanistan among them has been unambiguously good. The Vernacular Vicar writes, “Last Sunday, among the list of those who had died in our community, I read out the considerable list of more young men and women who have died for their country during 2011.”
However, how can we say that those who have died in Iraq and Afghanistan have died for their country? How has their country been served by their deaths, so sad for their family and friends? Sadly, the situation in both Iraq and Afghanistan is arguably worse that before the Anglo-American invasions. Both Britain and America would, arguably, have been better served if their young people had stayed home, and served their countries at home.
Neither Britain nor America (to mention the two countries in which I’ve listed for the last 27 years) appears to be in any present danger of invasion or attack, now or in the foreseeable future. The military is now a profession like any other. The young people sent to the middle east are not really keeping those at home safe, nor are they giving their lives for those at home, despite the rhetoric we hear. Should the military be more celebrated than those who have chosen any other profession?
* * *
What aspect of Remembrance Day do I find hardest? Well, of course, celebrating those who lost their lives in the India, or in the Commonwealth, or in the cause of the British Empire.
The British Empire, I believe, was a bad thing, not an unambiguously bad thing–but a bad thing. Its raison d’etre was the transfer of wealth from the colonized countries to the mother country. It did not exist for the good of the colonized countries, but for the good of the mother country. It has taken the colonized countries decades to recover from the British Empire, and few have done so completely.
The dramatic difference in living standards in England and the empire (India, Pakistan, Malaya, Sudan, Ghana, Nigeria, Sierra Leone, Jamaica etc.) makes it clear that the British Empire was a case of exploitation pure and simple. however it might have been couched as “the white man’s burden” to civilize “lesser breeds without the law.”
So for those who died fighting for the Empire, I do not mourn.
Though the Empire itself, I believe, existed for unambiguously bad reasons–exploitation–it was not itself unambiguously bad. These are some of the things which possibly came to India sooner than they would have because of the British Empire: railways, good universities, a good legal system, a parliamentary democracy, and the English language.
Ah, the English language in which I now write! For that, I could forgive the British Empire a lot, though it is not mine to forgive.
· * *
Last thought on Remembrance Day.
Has any Christian country ever tried to practice the non-violence espoused in the Sermon on the Mount? To go an extra mile with a bullying soldier. To give a cloak, if a coat is taken. To present the other cheek when slapped.
A society which practiced non-violence would not need an army, and would save billions of pounds.
Would it be instantly invaded? Or do innocence, goodness and non-violence have their own power, protection, and efficacy as fairy tales of all nations tell us, and as Gandhi, Martin Luther King and Desmond Tutu in recent times have shown us?
I would love to know, and I guess I can only find out by experimenting with it in my own life.
The only reason Jesus, in good conscience, advocated gentleness and non-violence in the face of a brutal and bullying occupying power was because he knew his disciples were acting in a play written by someone else, his father who was writing the play and would control how it all turned out.
And how did it turn out? The Romans? My daughter studied some of their words for her Latin GCSE, and recited the old chestnut with feeling, Latin is a language as dead as dead can be. First it killed the Romans, and now it’s killing me.
But the words of Jesus and his disciples? I met this morning to discuss them in North Oxford with a brilliant, varied group of 14 women—a doctor, an English professor, two wives of principals of Oxford Colleges, assorted academics and wives, charity and health workers, and well, a blogger J. The words of Jesus are still as alive and as vital as when they were spoken. And as challenging.
“Non-violence when confronted with our enemies?” some of his first listeners must have said. “Vis-à-vis the Romans? Is he nuts? We need to get them out of Israel.”
And others must have said, “Well, he also talks of his father who can send twelve legions. He sounds like a man who knows what he is talking about. I think I would like to try this man Jesus’s way.”
And well, so would I.

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  1. Anita says

    November 14, 2011 at 7:20 pm

    Totally agree, Chelliah/Jane 🙂

  2. Chelliah Laity says

    November 13, 2011 at 8:48 pm

    I think you were right to bring up the political aspect of war because many, including me, do question the justification or not of the deaths of soldiers in the name of war. Wars are conducted for political gain.

  3. Anita says

    November 12, 2011 at 9:45 am

    @ Mark, Thank you! It's good to hear that from someone who has served in the US military in numerous theaters–you know whereof you speak!
    @ Jennifer, yes, perhaps choosing Remembrance Day to write this post was in the very best taste. But I do think, as Mark wrote, that the glorification of the military leads to “a waste of life, time, and resources.” It's true that the US needed the military to prevent future 9/11 type of military attacks, but according to Bin Laden, 9/11 was itself revenge for the US air attacks on Lebanon etc.
    Next year, I'll post my thoughts on this a little bit before 11/11, not on the day itself!:)

  4. Jennifer in OR says

    November 12, 2011 at 5:13 am

    I have no ambivalence on this day, I am just thankful. I don't use this day to think about the political aspects of war, whether just or necessary, or wrong, that can be for another day. But that human life WAS expended, precious young people who put their lives and families on the line because they did indeed believe it was just, and will we ever really know for certain?
    {but I do so appreciate your thoughts here}

  5. Mark@3-fold Cord.com says

    November 12, 2011 at 12:01 am

    I really loved this post! We have been shouting similar sentiments in our blog is well. Having served in the US military in numerous theaters of war- I can say, with all manner of certainty, that not one of these endeavors were worth a single life. What a waste of life, time, and resources.

    May we eventually come to our senses and come together.

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And here’s a meditation I’ve recorded, which you might enjoy. The link is also in my profile
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And so, Jesus states a law of life. Those who broadcast their amazingness will be humbled, since God dislikes—scorns that, as much as people do.  For to trumpet our success, wealth, brilliance, giftedness or popularity is to get distracted from our life’s purpose into worthless activity. Those who love power, who are sure they know best, and who must be the best, will eventually be humbled by God and life. For their focus has shifted from loving God, doing good work, and being a blessing to their family, friends, and the world towards impressing others, being enviable, perhaps famous. These things are houses built on sand, which will crumble when hammered by the waves of old age, infirmity or adversity. 
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One day, every knee will bow before the gentle lamb who was slain, now seated on the throne. We will all be silent before him. Let us live gently then, our eyes on Christ, continually asking for his power, his Spirit, and his direction, moving, dancing, in the direction that we sense him move.
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3 days before his death, Jesus rampages through the commercialised temple, overturning the tables of moneychangers. Who gave you the authority to do these things? his outraged adversaries ask. And Jesus shows us how to answer hostile questions. Slow down. Breathe. Quick arrow prayers!
Your enemies have no power over your life that your Father has not permitted them. Ask your Father for wisdom, remembering: Questions do not need to be answered. Are these questioners worthy of the treasures of your heart? Or would that be feeding pearls to hungry pigs, who might instead devour you?
Questions can contain pitfalls, traps, nooses. Jesus directly answered just three of the 183 questions he was asked, refusing to answer some; answering others with a good question.
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and sidestep entrapping questions? Long before the day of
testing, practice slow, easy breathing, and tune in to the frequency of the Father. There’s no record of Jesus running, rushing, getting stressed, or lacking peace. He never spoke on his own, he told us, without checking in with the Father. So, no foolish, ill-judged statements. Breathing in the wisdom of the Father beside and within him, he, unintimidated, traps the trappers.
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the Father for guidance. Then our calm minds, made perceptive, will help us recognise danger and trick questions, even those coated in flattery, and sidestep them or refuse to answer.
We practice tuning in to heavenly wisdom by practising–asking God questions, and then listening for his answers about the best way to do simple things…organise a home or write. Then, we build upwards, asking for wisdom in more complex things.
Listening for the voice of God before we speak, and asking for a filling of the Spirit, which Jesus calls streams of living water within us, will give us wisdom to know what to say, which, frequently, is nothing at all. It will quieten us with the silence of God, which sings through the world, through sun and stars, sky and flowers.
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“Do not be afraid,” a dream-angel tells Joseph, to marry Mary, who’s pregnant, though a virgin, for in our magical, God-invaded world, the Spirit has placed God in her. Call the baby Jesus, or The Lord saves, for he will drag people free from the chokehold of their sins.
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telling of angels singing of coming inner peace. Joseph flees.
What’s the difference between fear and prudence? Fear is being frozen or panicked by imaginary what-ifs. It tenses our bodies; strains health, sleep and relationships; makes us stingy with ourselves & others; leads to overwork, & time wasted doing pointless things for fear of people’s opinions.
Prudence is wisdom-using our experience & spiritual discernment as we battle the demonic forces of this dark world, in Paul’s phrase.It’s fighting with divinely powerful weapons: truth, righteousness, faith, Scripture & prayer, while surrendering our thoughts to Christ. 
So let’s act prudently, wisely & bravely, silencing fear, while remaining alert to God’s guidance, delivered through inner peace or intuitions of danger and wrongness, our spiritual senses tuned to the Spirit’s “No,” his “Slow,” his “Go,” as cautious as a serpent, protected, while being as gentle as a lamb among wolves.
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Jesus came from a Kingdom of voluntary gentleness, in which
Christ, the Lion of Judah, stands at the centre of the throne in the guise of a lamb, looking as if it had been slain. No wonder his disciples struggled with his counter-cultural values. Oh, and we too!
The mother of the Apostles James and John, asks Jesus for a favour—that once He became King, her sons got the most important, prestigious seats at court, on his right and left. And the other ten, who would have liked the fame, glory, power,limelight and honour themselves are indignant and threatened.
Oh-oh, Jesus says. Who gets five talents, who gets one,
who gets great wealth and success, who doesn’t–that the
Father controls. Don’t waste your one precious and fleeting
life seeking to lord it over others or boss them around.
But, in his wry kindness, he offers the ambitious twelve
and us something better than the second or third place.
He tells us how to actually be the most important person to
others at work, in our friend group, social circle, or church:Use your talents, gifts, and energy to bless others.
And we instinctively know Jesus is right. The greatest people in our lives are the kind people who invested in us, guided us and whose wise, radiant words are engraved on our hearts.
Wanting to sit with the cleverest, most successful, most famous people is the path of restlessness and discontent. The competition is vast. But seek to see people, to listen intently, to be kind, to empathise, and doors fling wide open for you, you rare thing!
The greatest person is the one who serves, Jesus says. Serves by using the one, two, or five talents God has given us to bless others, by finding a place where our deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet. By writing which is a blessing, hospitality, walking with a sad friend, tidying a house.
And that is the only greatness worth having. That you yourself,your life and your work are a blessing to others. That the love and wisdom God pours into you lives in people’s hearts and minds, a blessing
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So Jesus makes a beautiful offer to the earnest, moral young man who came to him, seeking a spiritual life. Remarkably, the young man claims that he has kept all the commandments from his youth, including the command to love one’s neighbour as oneself, a statement Jesus does not challenge.
The challenge Jesus does offers him, however, the man cannot accept—to sell his vast possessions, give the money to the poor, and follow Jesus encumbered.
He leaves, grieving, and Jesus looks at him, loves him, and famously observes that it’s easier for a camel to squeeze through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to live in the world of wonders which is living under Christ’s kingship, guidance and protection. 
He reassures his dismayed disciples, however, that with God even the treasure-burdened can squeeze into God’s kingdom, “for with God, all things are possible.”
Following him would quite literally mean walking into a world of daily wonders, and immensely rich conversation, walking through Israel, Lebanon, Syria, and Jordan, quite impossible to do with suitcases and backpacks laden with treasure. 
For what would we reject God’s specific, internally heard whisper or directive, a micro-call? That is the idol which currently grips and possesses us. 
Not all of us have great riches, nor is money everyone’s greatest temptation—it can be success, fame, universal esteem, you name it…
But, since with God all things are possible, even those who waver in their pursuit of God can still experience him in fits and snatches, find our spirits singing on a walk or during worship in church, or find our hearts strangely warmed by Scripture, and, sometimes, even “see” Christ stand before us. 
For Christ looks at us, Christ loves us, and says, “With God, all things are possible,” even we, the flawed, entering his beautiful Kingdom.
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How to Find the Freedom of Forgiveness
Letting go on anger and forgiving is both an emotional transaction & a decision of the will. We discover we cannot command our emotions to forgive and relinquish anger. So how do we find the space and clarity of forgiveness in our mind, spirit & emotions?
When tormenting memories surface, our cortisol, adrenaline, blood pressure, and heart rate all rise. It’s good to take a literally quick walk with Jesus, to calm this neurological and physiological storm. And then honestly name these emotions… for feelings buried alive never die.
Then, in a process called “the healing of memories,” mentally visualise the painful scene, seeing Christ himself there, his eyes brimming with compassion. Ask Christ to heal the sting, to draw the poison from these memories of experiences. We are caterpillars in a ring of fire, as Martin Luther wrote--unable to rescue ourselves. We need help from above.
Accept what happened. What happened, happened. Then, as the Apostle Paul advises, give thanks in everything, though not for everything. Give thanks because God can bring good out of the swindle and the injustice. Ask him to bring magic and beauty from the ashes.
If, like the persistent widow Jesus spoke of, you want to pray for justice--that the swindler and the abusers’ characters are revealed, so many are protected, then do so--but first, purify your own life.
And now, just forgive. Say aloud, I forgive you for … You are setting a captive free. Yourself. Come alive. Be free. 
And when memories of deep injuries arise, say: “No. No. Not going there.” Stop repeating the devastating story to yourself or anyone else. Don’t waste your time & emotional energy, nor let yourself be overwhelmed by anger at someone else’s evil actions. Don’t let the past poison today. Refuse to allow reinjury. Deliberately think instead of things noble, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.
So keep trying, in obedience, to forgive, to let go of your anger until you suddenly realise that you have forgiven, and can remember past events without agitation. God be with us!
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