I am honoured to have this guest post from Darrell Vesterfelt.
Darrell is the CEO of the Prodigal Media Group, a storytelling firm based in Minneapolis where he lives with his wife Ally. Darrell is the original #unblogger. You can connect with him on Twitter or call him at (612)802-5227.
Delusions of Granger: Live An Honest Story
I was walking to the gym in our condo building the other morning and heard music blasting before I even walked in the door. What I saw as I walked inside was one of my neighbors lifting weights to Lincoln Park, as loud as it would go.
It reminded me of my high school locker room.
Loud metal music, lots of sweat and men flexing in the mirror.
As I was running on the treadmill I couldn’t help but be amused by how this 30-something guy was seeing himself. I saw a man 50-75 pounds overweight, but he saw something completely different when he looked at himself. I chuckled as he leaned against the weight bench and checked out the reflection of his triceps.
He was delusional about himself.
My humor quickly turned to horror as I thought about the delusions of my own life.
We all have them. You know, the image we like to portray to the world. The ideas we want people to think about us.
My delusions usually form around my business, and probably stem from the passion I have for it. I often like to think that the magazine I run with my wife is one of popular online publications.
The reality is it get about 10% the traffic of our biggest competitors.
I think in the deepest part of my subconscious I know that this difference exists, which is why I sometimes pretend to be “really important.” What this posturing actually does, though, is steal the real value I bring to the world.
My pretend value detracts from my real value, my real story.
Tens of thousands of people don’t read Prodigal Magazine every day, and that is OK. I can release myself from my delusions, stop trying to live someone else’s story. Because Prodigal is seven months old, not ten years old and because what I offer is just myself, and that is actually really valuable story.
If we are not good stewards of the reality we are in, there is no way we will be given more. And even more important, if we are not content being where we are at (even if we never become anything “more”) then we are missing the point all together.
Living in honesty is an important first step to living a good story with our lives. Sometimes we have to sit down and have an intervention with ourselves, asking some really hard questions?
What do I want my life to look like?
Is my current life resembling that desired outcome?
If not, what am I going to change to get on course to that life?
I have to stop pretending to be someone I’m not before I can start being who I really was made to be. I have to step off my self-constructed platform and start making meaningful movements toward my desired outcome.
The world deserves your story and you deserve to live it. Living that story must start with honesty.