Comments on: Is it more important for Christian bloggers to be nice or to be real (if they can’t be both)? https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/ Anita Mathias's Blog on Faith and Art Thu, 14 Nov 2013 01:09:27 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 By: Anita Mathias https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17383 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 16:10:21 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17383 Louise, I strongly felt that I should write it and keep it up beyond when I was asked to take it down. But I was under stress, and that is not the perfect condition for hearing God's voice and experiencing his peace.

Sharon, you are so right!

]]> By: Sharon https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17382 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 15:22:01 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17382 Jesus told his disciples that it would not be an easy road following Him. He always spoke the truth, that's one of the reasons the Pharisees & others disliked Him so much. Jesus was continually “stepping on their toes” & they didn't like it.

]]> By: Louise https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17381 Sat, 24 Mar 2012 10:55:45 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17381 Hello Anita,

Through all of it, how did you feel God guided you in it?

Kind Regards
Louise

]]> By: Anita Mathias https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17380 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 17:03:52 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17380 Tim, LOL! Love your comment. I followed your way of thinking, and left my blog post up for a while, though not indefinitely. It got something like 60 comments from church members; led to a petition written by the PCC and circulated around the church, signed by many; and I think brought things hidden in darkness into the light.

I think toxicity in churches grows in darkness and concealment. There is healing and health in bringing things to the light!

]]> By: @tim_hutchings https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17379 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 15:19:33 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17379 Who says blessings are nice? And who says that blessing your readers means saying nice things about their leaders??

As far as I'm concerned, the truth is a blessing, and concealing the truth doesn't build anyone up.

]]> By: Anita Mathias https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17378 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 14:41:33 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17378 Thanks, everyone.
Love your comment, Danielle. I think “speaking the truth in love,” might be a good new strapline and goal!

]]> By: Danielle Navonne https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17377 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 14:29:00 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17377 I don’t think honesty and speaking the hard truths make your posts any less of a “blessing.” I get why you changed the strapline, but if that's the line you were given for your blog, I don't think it was inaccurate.

I think when we think about what really “builds people” and “blesses” them, it's when they are given truth. I don't think we are called to help people feel good, we are called to help people GROW in Christ. Sometimes that growth comes with nice things that make people feel good, sometimes it comes with the unpleasant things that don't feel so good- but if they promote growth/truth, I think they are still a blessing – something we need.

This makes me think of flowers, plants, grass. They are blessed with the bright beautiful sun – which helps them grow. But they are also blessed by the dreary gloomy rain – not as pleasant as the sun but still needed in order to grow.

]]> By: Pablo https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17376 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 02:10:41 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17376 One-on-one, or within my personal community, I'm “nice” & respectful of a person's point-of-view.

Organizationally or Nationally (especially with the Marxist/Muslim we have in our American White House…I'm as real as they come: bare-knuckled and, if need be, nasty.

When my family & freedoms are at stake…it's “no holds barred”.

(unless, of course you, uhm…object) ;- ]

]]> By: Rhoda https://anitamathias.com/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17375 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 23:34:21 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/03/22/is-it-more-important-for-christian-bloggers-to-be-nice-or-to-be-real-if-they-cant-be-both/#comment-17375 I think the most important verse for this is Eph 4:29: 'Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers'. Edifying doesn't always mean nice though – Jesus wouldn't have said anything not edifying, but he definitely didn't always say nice things. The thing that I am always cautious about is that I don't want to stumble people, which is a real deal, as people can be so easily influenced by what they read.

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