https://anitamathias.com/2012/02/26/forgiveness-and-forgetfulness-a-guest-post-by-tanya-marlow/ Anita Mathias's Blog on Faith and Art Thu, 14 Nov 2013 01:10:31 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 https://anitamathias.com/2012/02/26/forgiveness-and-forgetfulness-a-guest-post-by-tanya-marlow/#comment-17256 Sun, 26 Feb 2012 15:03:15 +0000 http://anitamathias.com/blog/2012/02/26/forgiveness-and-forgetfulness-a-guest-post-by-tanya-marlow/#comment-17256 I forget that I must not talk negatively about my kids to other people. That is, when I am irritated, I tend to discuss it with one or the other of my grown children, or close friends. This puts (esp. the child I talk to) in a very awkward position regarding her/his sibling. My desire for their future is that they be close and bear no grudges, especially not mine. But, I persist in grumbling about irritations that repeatedly come around. I'm thankful that my kids respond to me by asking, “Have you discussed this with ____?” I often have, but it is more difficult with the in-law children. The seeds of discord were planted long ago, and I realize that when I discuss my discontent with one, it is a short jump to wonder, “what does she say about me and mine?”. I deserve it, too. I don't do this (very much) outside my family.

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